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There is a stage after powerful personal transformation work that can be surprisingly uncomfortable. You’ve had the shift, the realisation, the rewiring. You’ve shed the skin, done the unbecoming and crossed some kind of threshold, and yet somehow you can find yourself thinking thoughts that seem to belong to the person you were before all…
What I am burning down!
I’m burning down patience that quietly asks me to abandon my own truth. I’m burning down the idea that insight alone creates change. I’m burning down understanding as a substitute for embodiment. I’m burning down explaining myself in order to feel safe or understood. I’m burning down softening truth to protect connection. I’m burning down…
Safety WITH not Safety FROM
One of the clearest understandings to emerge for me is this. Healing is not about creating safety FROM life. It is about discovering safety WITH life. Not safe FROM uncomfortable feelings. But safe WITH uncomfortable feeling. For a long time, I believed safety meant protecting and avoiding. Avoiding discomfort, preventing conflict, and managing situations so…
Relationship Scarcity
When we have been single for a long time and then we meet someone who seems interested in us it is very easy for relationship scarcity to creep in. Thoughts like “I’ve got to make this one work because I might not meet anyone better” or “I have to stay in this relationship because I…
People pleasing
Everytime you say Yes, when really you want to say No, notice what it is that you are trying to get with that Yes…do you want someone to find you desirable, do you want someone’s approval, do you want to feel attractive to someone….do you fear being rejected in some way if you say No?…
I tend to over-think…….
This week has been all about overthinking! I write guest blog posts for a really cool new phone app called Daily Haloha. The app is a little moment of daily reflection where you are given a question to reflect on and answer. It’s then sent to someone on the other side of the world, then…
Getting back to basics
I was at the Three Principles Conference last week, and the most beautiful thing I took away from it was being reminded again just how simple and hopeful life is so I thought it would be useful this week to go back to basics. I understand that it might not look that simple to you…
Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process
I read a quote this week by Brene Brown that really touched me. “Owning our story and loving ourselves through the process is the bravest thing that we will ever do”. I always tell my clients at the beginning of our journey together how much I admire them for taking the journey with me, as…
The stone in her shoe
Once upon a time there was a small child who got herself into a spot of bother. Through no fault of her own a situation occurred and during that event a small stone got stuck in her shoe. She hobbled around for a while, feeling it press into her as it rubbed her and created…