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Alison in Tinderland........Dating from the Inside-Out

I know it's not easy to consider dating again.

You may feel lonely and as if time is running out, perhaps as if happiness is passing you by, but although part of you longs to be in a relationship again, you are scared.

When it comes down to it you're not sure if you can trust in your judgement anymore and because of this you worry about trusting your heart to another person.

You may still be able to feel the emotional pain of the last breakup and with this at the back of your mind you feel stuck and unable to move forward.

You know online dating is the only way to meet someone these days but when people talk about their experiences you get put off and you think you would rather stay single than have to go through it all, and you may have even convinced your self you are too set in your ways.

However.....when you drill down deeper you know you are craving to be seen, to be heard and to be loved….

But it just doesn’t feel safe enough.

You want the pleasure and the good bits but can’t face the commitment and the consequences that could bring.

Of losing again….

And the worst part? Deep down, there's a nagging voice telling you that maybe you are the problem....that maybe you're not attractive enough, interesting enough, or worthy of love.

If this is you, I can help.

I will share with you some fundamental truths that will help you to feel connected to yourself again and to feel excited about the future.

Imagine seeing dating completely differently, being able to tune into your own strong inner guidance system and being able to trust in yourself completely.

What I want you to realise is that this is possible for you when you approach dating from the inside out. Boundaries become an expression of self love; not to keep you safe from anything outside you, but to keep you safe from abandoning your self again.

This is an invitation to go deeper. To find out who you really are and to realise the only person who you need to trust is yourself.

 AND keep your self-esteem and self-worth intact while you’re doing it.

So, if you're sick of singe life and are ready to find lthe courage to love again, without losing your damn mind, this is your chance!

Scroll down to find out more.

Pay via PayPal: £497

What's included-

Six weeks of 1-1 coaching sessions and support in-between via email reflections.

What I'm going to introduce you to will build week on week into a new feeling of trust in yourself and your choices, trust in life again, trust in your resilience, and your own self-worth....and not just in your dating and relationship experiences but in a new way of doing life, because how you do one thing is how you do everything and this will become the key to success, wellbeing, joy and peace of mind in all areas of your life.

Why this matters-

It matters because I have seen first hand, both in myself and in others, how much fuc*ing pain not knowing how to play this game causes! Not just the dating and relationship game, but the game of life.

We all want to love and to be loved, right?. You wouldn't be reading this if that wasn't the case.

But we have so much stuff that get's in the way of experiencing what we want. And it's really worth looking at it otherwise you resign your self to a future of being single and/or depending on other people for your happiness, whilst at the same time not having the trust, the confidence or the resilience to go after what you want, and quitting right left and centre.

And I am here to show you that its doesn't have to be that way, and to help you to do it differently.


"When I first stumbled down the rabbit hole of Alison in Tinderland, I was broken.

I've struggled with my self-worth for many years and as a consequence, romance.

I've been single for the best part of 15 years, refusing to even step inside the world of online dating because I 'knew' nobody would want me. I was convinced, without doubt, that I was unlovable.

Alison is an amazing coach, seeing things I simply could not see & helping me to shine a light on my outdated beliefs & perspectives.

Alison has helped me to understand both the illusion & the fluid nature of my thoughts. I am developing a different relationship with myself, with my thoughts, & now I recognise my approval seeking behaviours, with my Tinder matches.
I can now let suitors come & go without needing to coax them into liking me.
I can now move forward into a future where I am now in the driving seat as my authentic self.
I am no longer reliant on others to provide that sense of safety & wellbeing and feeling good enough.
I would still like to find love, but I don't need it to be OK. And I now have a new resilience to be able to stick with the process"
NP February 2024

Confirming the details-

There is a one-off payment of £497 to enroll on the programme.

If you want to be considered for a payment plan, then ask me.

At any one time I only have space for 3 people on the programme. If those spaces are taken you can ask to go on a waiting list until there is a free place.

All the sessions will be delivered on Zoom, and as far as I can manage, at the same time and on the same evening every week.

The programme is six sessions, to be taken over six weeks.

I am asking you to fully commit to this, and not to do half-arsed participation as you may have done in the past. This is you FULLY showing up for you. This work is SO needed so you can get what you want, and if you're not really up for it, please don't sign up.

We will be looking at-

Why we need a strong sense of self-worth and our long term okay-ness.
Why we need to look at where our feelings are really coming from.
Why we need to stop abandoning ourselves.
Why we need to look at the nature of our self-protection strategies, and our coping mechanisms and if they are getting us what we really want.
Why we need to look at our deletions, distortions and generalisations.
And we will look at the impact of attachment styles and love languages.
And MOST OF ALL we need to look at what psychological and emotional safety actually is and where it comes from.
Because ALL of this is what will give you the courage to show up and get the results you desire.