About Alison

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My Story

For me there was a sinking feeling that came when I realised I had repeated a pattern again. I have had my heart broken so many times. I was a total disaster when it came to relationships. It was that oh f~~k it moment!

I don't know how many times my daughters heard the line "This one's different" when I launched into telling them about my latest relationship, as their eyes rolled back in their heads wondering what unsuitable choice I had made this time.

We all want to love and be loved and we chase after that good feeling, and, when we are insecure, anyone who shows us a degree of interest suddenly becomes the most interesting person ever!

It doesn't come with any discrimination at all, I didn't question whether I  actually liked the person for who they are or if they had similar values to me....oh no.....the fact that they found me attractive and were saying all the right things was enough.

I know it sounds so "begging bowl" but believe me until I uncovered this pattern I was grateful for any scraps of love thrown my way and I would think my way into loving people that I didn't even find attractive.

It was the deep yearning to have a meaningful relationship with someone, anyone, that kept me on a search for love. It was also in that chasing of a good feeling that I found myself saying "F##k it, I've done it again".

You see in all of this I was innocently confused that the love from another person towards me was where my sense of security and self esteem laid; as if an external source of affection was how I got to feel good enough in the world.

And then one day in my coach training I came across an understanding that changed everything.

I uncovered and trained in an understanding of the human psychology that transformed my world.

 

 

 

And life changed forever. Yes, I still get moments when I forget and dive into chasing good feelings again but I am no longer scared of feeling the "bad ones" because I know they will pass and won’t consume me and eat me up, and so all of the energy I used to use to avoid feeling is released to do other things. I can identify when I am acting out of my insecurities and taking my thinking seriously and I also have a very deep knowing that whatever happens I will be ok so I spend a lot more time hanging out in a very different way of thinking and seeing the world.

The programme that I have developed, brings all of my training and life experience together so you too can transform your life, your relationships, find love and uncover happiness and peace of mind.

Transformational life coaching: I would love you to realise just how amazing you really are.

This is what a past client had to say about me (blush!!)

"The first thing I noticed about Alison was her remarkable presence. I met her at a time when I was met a lot of coaches, online and in person, and it was that presence that stood out immediately.
Alison has a loving, accepting composure that’s visible, whether you’re in a conversation with her or reading something she’s written. It’s difficult to describe, because it’s so rare! There’s a strength and a lightness that touches you. And not in a striving, struggling sense, but in a grounded, soulful way.
Alison is so perfectly suited to being a coach for many reasons. She’s been around the block herself and that life experience gives her a depth of understanding. She knows what hard is. She knows what emotions decisions can evoke. She knows what it’s like to be fearful and make mistakes. And personally I value that enormously. She’s done the work herself, rather than just learnt the theory. And when selecting a coach, that’s exactly what I’m looking for!
When Alison listens to you, you feel 100% heard. That is a very special experience, for someone to have the confidence and maturity to be fully present with you, no matter what is being said. And as you feel heard, Alison asks questions. Questions that enable you to zoom out of the chaos of your thinking and emotions. Questions that enable you to see a different perspective and then, you can see your own perspective shift and different ideas and solutions present themselves. That’s what a powerful coach can deliver - they don’t prescribe an approach, but they lead you to your own realisations and solutions.
Alison is unafraid to claim all her life and doesn’t pretend to be perfect. I love that! Because nobody is perfect and if they pretend to be, they’re hiding behind something. Alison never hides. She lives out loud and shares her experiences. She embraces the messiness that makes up our lives and shows you how that is ok. Instead of fighting it, trying to order the untameable chaos, Alison helps you to thrive, as life is.
I love they way Alison has worked with and continues to work with all sorts of different modalities. One size doesn’t fit all and Alison’s breadth of experience lends itself to an approach that recognises and meets the needs of each client as an individual. She responds in the moment with what is helpful and doesn’t default to a single approach. This is a reflection of Alison’s own strength, allowing and accepting each client to be their individuality.
Alison is a strong, inspiring woman who enables you to find your best self, your true self. She enables you to navigate your way through life and find a strength and clarity within yourself, that comes from you. It isn’t a doctrine she installs, it’s a way of being that enables your inner resilience and creativity to come forward, even when circumstances can appear tough."

I am a fully qualified and insured INLPTA accredited Master Practitioner of Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), and a Three Principles based coach (transformational relationship and life coach), working in Bath, Berkhamsted and internationally on-line.

And when I am not doing this-

I live in Bath with my lovely husband who is an artist. I love to cook and bake vegan food and am a bit of a foodie. I enjoy writing and wrote a chapter for a book called ” Thirteen Women, An Anthology” . I wrote for Bath Weekend Magazine for a year as their life coach and am currently writing a book called “Five things to give fewer fu@*s about”. I like observational humour- people like Russell Brand and Tim Minchin. I love the woods, my favourite place to walk and lose myself. Other passions include dancing, music, baking bread, River Cottage, my MX5, being in nature, and fire, I love watching fire. Oh, and I am a Guinness World Record holding Skydiver!

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