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How to make sure no one ever hurts your feelings again
Sounds impossible right? So would it surprise you if I said it is actually impossible for anyone to EVER hurt your feelings? Let me give you an example, and then I will explain. Imagine a scenario where two people are arguing. One stood on one side of the room, one stood on the other. Both…
Read MoreThe Itty Bitty Shitty Committee
Happy World Mental Health Day! How mentally healthy are you? What is your bounce-back rate, aka resilience like, when faced with a set-back? Do you lose sleep at night over-thinking, going over the same problems trying to fix them at 3am in the morning? Do you have anxiety as you are about to go into…
Read MoreHow to rid yourself of toxic people FOREVER
I hate to break this to you folks, but I could actually rename this article “How to rid yourself of Unicorns forever” because in the same way as Unicorns don’t exist…….neither do toxic people! I know from some Facebook research that people believe they exist, (toxic people, not Unicorns)…so here is my version of reality…
Read MorePutting on the RAS
I experienced the power of my RAS this year at Venice Airport. We were unexpectedly late catching our flight, we were rushing through the crowds, it was noisy, it was hot, it was very busy. I was concentrating on keeping up with my husband as we weaved through the crowds, through security. And yet….over the…
Read MoreA letter to my daughter
Relationships- People come and people go Things come and things go Nothing is permanent Everything is temporary When we try to hold on to things we will always end up hurting There will be let down and disappointment Saying “my” boyfriend and “my” girlfriend We are trying to own someone and we never can Know…
Read MoreThe stone in her shoe
Once upon a time there was a small child who got herself into a spot of bother. Through no fault of her own a situation occurred and during that event a small stone got stuck in her shoe. She hobbled around for a while, feeling it press into her as it rubbed her and created…
Read MoreWhere the fuck did my mojo go?? And why I don’t need to save the world anymore!
I have been sitting in front of my lap top for several hours over the course of the last few days now. I want to write. I love writing. I want to help people through my writing. But somehow, even though that thought fills my mind when I stare at the screen, the flow, the…
Read More“I hope I screw this up”
You don’t HAVE any limitations- you are just addicted to them…… Our minds are great at coming up with reasons why we shouldn’t do something we want to do. My favourite always used to be- “You are not good enough” (I think that one was instilled in me several times throughout my childhood)(by me I…
Read MoreBoundaries and why you don’t need them
Clients often say to me that they feel the need to set boundaries to stop someone taking advantage of them, so they can feel confident in saying a behaviour is not okay, to avoid the injustice of accusations and because it looks like being able to do that can create a feeling of inner confidence. Contained…
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